When God forgives us for violating his design, he pours his life into us; and that restores our capacity to connect, first with him, then with others. He makes us alive with the actual life of Christ. The energy with which Jesus heard and obeyed the Father, the impulses that lay behind everything he did…are in us. The impulses that energized Jesus’ life on earth are actually in us. That’s part of what it means to be alive in Christ.
Non-Christians do not have that life. They are still dead in sin, separate from God, controlled by a very different energy….
At the core of non-Christians, however, is the same capacity for relationship that exists at the core of Christians. Everyone was designed to connect. In non-Christians, though that capacity is functionally dead, there is a haunting memory of what once was, a lingering appetite for what could be.
When a person possessing the life of Christ pours that life into non-Christians, the memory gets clearer, the appetite deepens. When the Spirit of God then whispers, “This is what you’ve been looking for,” he draws non-Christians to Christ, to the source of the connection for which they long.
In Christ, peope are then forgiven and quickened, adopted as members of the family of God and provided with the nature of that family.
 Crabb, Larry. Connecting. Nashville: Word Publishing, 1997. pp 29,30