Does the Argument Make Sense?

Randy Thomas was the Executive Vice President of Exodus International under Alan Chambers, and according to his own words, “helped evaluate/determine that [closing Exodus down] was the only decisions we could make on a numbers of levels.” On January 12 of this year (two years since the closing of Exodus) Randy came out as gay and planning to stay that way.

He wrote recently celebrating the decision to close Exodus and recounting the wonderful impact that decision has had on his personal life.

In order to test the logic of his article I’ve taken an excerpt from the latter portion of his post and copied it verbatim except to substitute adultery in place of homosexual practice. Hopefully, the lunacy of his claims will be apparent.

Adulterers should be given access to all the same life-giving resources and opportunities in the church as anyone else. Minister to us as peers not with the constant undercurrent of objectified “issues” you can’t relate to. Let us minister to and serve *you* as the opportunity arises. Embrace us with true unconditional love that is not disclaimed by hurtful “you are broken” messaging and being relationally relegated to being “other than” for the rest of our natural lives. Let me be fully honest standing in worship, or sitting in the pew next to you, instead of being told I could only be fully “honest” on a Thursday night at 7pm at an adulterer support group.

Jesus is life-giving in a myriad of ways that have transformed me as a person. Even so, He did not change my sexual urges. He didn’t change my desire to be in love with and devoted to another woman besides my wife. I now believe He didn’t change that because it doesn’t need to be changed. I am an adulterer; He knows this and I believe He has guided me to where I am to finally embrace and be at peace with myself and His blessing of who I truly Am. Our Heavenly Father embraces me and everything He has put within me to live out.

I am His; nothing and no one can change that.

Because of God’s love and direction, today I’ve never been more transparent (didn’t say perfect; just transparent). I have never been more free.

Since embracing the truth that I am an adulterer, and Christian and everything else that I am… I have started openly dating. In fact, today, I happen to be in love with a beautiful (in every way) woman I have been referring to lately (online) as Miss Girlfriend. In fact, she is texting me while I type this and my heart is truly full of joy. I am sure that I have the best mistress ever. 🙂

4 thoughts on “Does the Argument Make Sense?

  1. I don’t know whether or not Randy Thomas is or was married to a woman. But I know (or think) that’s not your point. Nevertheless, it would be worse were he having an affair or mistress (or were he rationalizing an additional wife) or leaving or neglecting a wife (or arguing no neglect is involved) — for a man or another woman. Sadly, men who aren’t interested in the women they have married (and thereby have defrauded) have been hurting women all along. And while I’m glad for you personally that you see the insertion of the word adultery as clarifying, I have observed that churches pretty much do treat adulterous men (and men who neglect ex-wives or pretend that they’re not neglectful or that they’re justified or justified in ignoring a separated wife’s needs because she can’t possibly have anything real to say that can’t be “solved” by her just getting “over it” or shutting up and stuffing it) in the way Randy is asking to be treated (while, as far as I know, Randy is not committing adultery). [None of this is to say I would be comfortable with Randy and Mr. Boyfriend ministering to me.]

  2. I’m not sure I’m following the first part of your comment, Marleen. Are you saying that engaging in an active same sex relationship is not so bad as committing adultery? But either way, you’re correct, that wasn’t my point, as I’m not comparing adultery and a same sex relationship in any way other than to say that they’re both sinful, and both should disqualify a man from ministry (at the very least while he is unrepentant…if and when he might be restored to ministry is a different conversation).

    As to the second part, I think you’re suggesting that churches have been far too tolerant of the various sins surrounding divorce. If I’m reading you accurately, I agree. If I’m not picking up what you’re laying down, please point me in the right direction.

  3. Yes, you are getting my “second part” (hadn’t thought of parts and counted them). I’m glad you agree with that too. Yes, I think those are worse, because more people are getting hurt… and not only more but people who didn’t “sign up” for any of it. But I agree with you that both should disqualify a man from ministry (and not only for a time, at least the kind of ministry that involves contact with people for whom the man is considered responsible or personally entrusted). I’d say the same for a man who has committed pedophilia (and that’s worse yet). I’m also glad you didn’t substitute that word; you probably know some enthusiastic preachers sort of equate that and homosexuality (or don’t seem to know how to control their language where it is concerned). [Homosexual men are not more likely to be pedophiles. It has been shown that they are more prone (not each of them but the statistical number of them) to adultery… obviously, if they are with a woman, but there’s less “faithfulness” to a man as well.]

  4. {On the pedophile topic, that person should be left out of much more. And if anyone wants to consider marrying him, be prepared (if you are ethical at all) to stick to yourselves and not have children or be around anyone else’s children… ever. Sorry (or not), just how it is.}

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